There is also no age limit for love, but there is a mind set that you need to keep in order to give your full self to someone so that you can eventually grow to love them. I’ve learned over the past few years that you need to expect the unexpected when it comes to relationships. There are so many girls that I come across nowadays that believe that they are going to marry the person that they are with currently, and they are like 15-16 years old. I’ve been there. I’ve thought I was in lust, love, and everything in between.
I’ve been in those petty little relationships in my middle school years, you know, the one’s that don’t matter, and I’ve also had a very long term relationship. It was a rough transition to go from being with someone for as long as four years, to not being with someone at all. You are left in a position where you say, “Now what?”
I guess when you have been with someone for so long, especially at an age where you are still growing up and discovering yourself, that you don’t know what it’s like to be single and on your own. I was clouded with the fantasy that I was with the guy that I am going to marry. I was young, naïve, and if I knew then what I know now then I wouldn’t have spent so long dating this guy, because looking back…I was too good for him.So at the age of 18, for the first time in my young-adult life I was single and I decided to take this time to focus on myself and school, because in the end you don’t need a
man boy to live your life.
I was single for the summer before my sophomore year of college. I experienced the whole “dating” thing, ya know when you’re not tied down to one guy?, It was great. I was having fun which is what a girl my age should be doing. I dated one guy in particular that summer who had me so hung up. He was a great guy who was misunderstood. He gave me butterflies, brought a smile to my face, and mended my broken heart. However, it wasn’t going to work out. There were too many things going on in our lives and it just wasn’t the right time, or maybe it was because he just wasn’t the right person for me.
So back to focusing on my single life, or so I thought. Immediately after things ended with my little summer fling, I met someone else. It was a rollercoaster of a relationship. I looked at him as a friend at first, then we hooked up and kept everything a secret, then I wanted to be official but he didn’t then once we were I didn’t want to anymore, and we kept breaking up and making up. We never fought, the only thing I fought was my emotions. I saw that this was going somewhere and it was moving fast. I had just gotten over a very long term relationship and I didn’t want to jump into anything serious again. But I realized then when we were a part I missed him and he instantly became a part of me and I didn’t even realize it. I felt a different connection with him that I haven’t felt before. It was both terrifying and exciting and finally I decided to give this relationship a try.
I am no expert on love. I am not going to sit here and tell you that at 19 years old I found my future husband. I am no longer naïve, I am realistic. I am not going to be one of those girls who gets engaged and doesn’t get married until a few years from now. What I have learned from all of my relationships is that you need to expect the unexpected. I thank my ex of four years for letting me go and live my life so that I can realize that there are more people out there than just him and to realize that I don’t love him anymore. I thank my summer romance for giving me happiness and for letting me forget my ex and for making my summer a great one with plenty of memories. I thank my current boyfriend for giving me multiple chances, for putting up with me, for supporting me in everything I do, and for just having fun with me.
Have fun girls, live your life. If you come across a guy who makes you happy then have fun with him. Don’t plan your wedding a week into the relationship. Always keep in the back of your mind that “life is like a box of chocolates.” Most importantly, don’t stay with someone because you feel like you should or you have to. Be with someone who makes you happy, truly, truly, happy.